A 42-year-old woman named married herself and called it the best day of her life.
Melissa Denton who is a two-time divorcee and have two children writes in the Telegraph, “The idea to marry myself came to me in January last year when I was at work one day. Three weeks before, on Christmas Eve, I had received a text message from my boyfriend of five and a half years: ‘I can’t do this any more, it’s over,’ it said … It was devastating and left me in a funk, unable to eat, sleep or smile.”
Denton recalled a TV interview with Sophie Tanner, who also married herself in May 2015. Denton writes, “I was so down, and knew that I needed to learn to love myself before I would be able to attract the right people into my life. For years, I had poured myself into relationship after relationship, losing myself in the process. It was time to put ‘me’ first – a way to affirm that I can be happy on my own and to move on from the relationship.”
Denton bought a ring for herself and her children Ruby, 15, and Jasper, 11, were doubtful but came to attend the ceremony, her family also came around and her brother did not bring his son to the wedding as he thought it would baffle him.
She writes, “I’m hoping his opinion has now changed.”
Denton’s mother was not happy with her idea but Denton writes, “She soon came around. At the end of the day, she told me she was really proud.”
The wedding featured “a DJ, live band, karaoke and a huge vegan feast.”
Denton writes, “For the first time in my adult life, I was single and happy – the experience was empowering. Rather than wasting my time, energy and love on someone else, I was putting myself first.”
Denton explains, “My potted and relentless history with men started at 16 when my father died in a car accident.point 385 |
” She segues to her two failed marriages, then adds, “Relationships only got more difficult from there, as I bounced from one man to the next with little time in between to heal or become independent.point 169 | I often transferred emotions from my last relationship into the next, all the way until that awful Christmas Eve text.point 268 |
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She says about the wedding, “The atmosphere at the wedding was amazing, and everyone was celebrating, including a couple of ex-boyfriends and some former in-laws.point 143 | It was just like any other wedding – just without a groom.point 196 | I walked down the aisle, in a pink dress, with a big smile – towards no-one.point 263 |
A friend gave me away and another officiated.point 38 | I repeated the vows and put the ring on myself, and we passed a paper plate around the 130-person congregation for everyone to sign in lieu of a register, as it’s not a legal procedure.point 191 | It was the best day of my life.point 215 |
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Denton says she is “ready for a new challenge – and to start cheating on myself – so I applied to go on First Dates. I didn’t consider that for some people it might be a bit too mad. Instead, I planned to joke that I was married, but a bit bored.”
“Some people don’t understand it – but to me, it made absolute sense and that’s why I’m going to renew my vows at a similar ceremony every year, even if I am in a relationship. I have even bought four wedding dresses that can be used in the future. It is a way to centre and value myself, as well as remember that I can receive love that is equal, not one-sided. “
And there’s this: “Being Mrs Denton has taught me to be happy in my own company and skin, to not put pressure on myself to look or act in a certain way. Confidence is the most attractive thing a person can have and the marriage has given me that. My marriage to myself might not have come with a wedding night or honeymoon, but the plans for the future are far more exciting.”
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