Nadia Bokody, a journalist from Sydney, is always honest about her opinions and views on different life situations. Best known for her polarizing articles, she has stated that she can no longer be friends with women who have become moms.
The She Said global editor told FEMAIL the reason why she doesn’t want to stay friends with moms anymore.
After watching friendships fall because of a shift in priority, Ms. Bokody believes that it is better to end friendships with those who start to have kids.
“It’s not for lack of trying, but ultimately their priorities changed once there was a little human relying on them for every second of its life and the ability to drop everything and meet up for cocktails was simply impossible,” she expressed.
Whenever she meets up with her friends, it was always on their terms with the conversation always turning back to motherhood. She also explained that her friends were so prone to fawning over their kids she sometimes questioned why she had been invited.
She only has a few child-free friends left, and when one of them announced that she was expecting, Ms. Bokody said that she felt a bittersweet wave of emotions.
“Knowing how long she’d been trying and how much effort she’d gone to get her life to a place where she was fully equipped to welcome a baby into the world with no regrets, my heart welled up with happiness for her.
“But I also experienced a deep and profound feeling of loss, because in that moment I knew our friendship was over.”
She also explained how her friend’s babies would dominate the activities their relationship had been built on, such as weekends away together, girly chats, and spontaneous nights out.
“Most of my friends who have had children actually readily acknowledge the fact that our friendships have dramatically changed as a result of their new life paths. Their children are their top priority, and I totally get that. I’m just glad we’ve been able to be honest about it.”
Ms. Bokody also revealed that she argued with a friend before about her stance on the matter. “She was in total denial about the fact having a child would change her life and swore she’d still be the same person.
“Since giving birth two years ago I’ve seen her maybe twice and it’s been super awkward, we just don’t have anything in common anymore.”
After reading the reasoning behind her viewpoint, many people commented regarding the issue.
“I love my friends and I love their children, but the fact is that if they are not talking about their children, then they are distracted by them, and they can no longer hold a conversation,” one said.
“Then she was never a friend to begin with,” said another.
“There is a lot of truth to what she says. But to actually go out of your way to tell a friend who is becoming a mother that the friendship is over is narcissistic, vindictive and shallow. A lot of my friends drifted a bit when they got MARRIED (without kids). If that happens it happens, but I would not in a billion years think to say ‘dear Peter, nice to hear that you fell in love and are getting married. Please note though that our friendship is over.’ What a selfish killjoy this woman is,” another person commented.
“She’ll become more and more alone, and most likely lonely, as her life goes by,” one person commented.
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