A woman took to Reddit to share her disappointment over her sister whose adopted kid shares the same name as her unborn child.
She had never thought that her idea of changing the name of her sister’s adopted daughter would invite a lot of criticism for her.
The pregnant mother said that it took her a long time to pick a name for her unborn daughter and she realized her identical twin who can’t have kids because of her husband was adopting a five-year-old girl who has the same name she chose for her own daughter.
She wrote on Reddit: ‘’My sister S and I are identical twins.I’ve always felt like I’ve never been allowed to have my own things.
We have rhyming names, my mom always tried to get us matching clothes, and we shared a bedroom.That’s never bothered S like it bothers me. She always wanted to do same activities as me and hang out with my friend group. ’’
‘’When we were 18, she applied to a few of the same colleges as me but she’s never been as good of a student and she didn’t get into my dream school and I did. I hid it but I was really excited. Ultimately, it was good for us that S went to a different college. Our relationship improved when I had my own space where I could be myself and not one of the interchangeable twins.’’
She revealed that after marrying both the twins got busy in their lives, but unfortunately her sister’s husband is not able to have kids and the pair decided to adopt a kid.
She continued: ‘’I went to graduate school so I didn’t get married until last year. After the wedding, we moved to my hometown to raise our kids close to family. S has been married for four years. Unfortunately, her husband SH is unable to have kids. They decided to adopt, which I think is fantastic.’’
‘’I’m currently pregnant and having a girl. My husband and I spent a lot of time picking out the perfect name for our future child. I feel SO good about this name.’’
The woman said that she was happy for her sister until the moment she announced the name of her adopted daughter. She decided to talk about the matter to her sister when she learnt their babies are going to have the same names.
She added: ‘’Yesterday, S and SH announced to the family (remotely) that they are officially about to adopt a little girl. They wanted a baby but ended up having to go with a slightly older kid, 5. She looks absolutely precious and I was so happy for a few seconds before they announced her name is B, the name that S KNOWS is my daughter’s.’’
‘’I thought that was a joke so I kind of laughed. Then I realized they were serious. Obviously the girls can’t have the same name. Twins with daughters with the same name??? Everyone would laugh at us.’’
The woman even accused her sister stealing her unborn child’s name deliberately as she thinks her twin always tries to copy her.
‘’I feel like all of my problems with S will repeat themselves as everyone compares the girls and lumps them together because they have the same name. They won’t be able to have a good relationship because of this. I don’t want people nicknaming my kid to distinguish her because I like the FULL name I chose. And I can’t help but suspect that S picked a kid with the same name on purpose just like she always wanted to be like me when we were kids.’’
She ended her story saying that she would ask her sister to either change her daughter’s name or adopt another kid. Sounds rude, right? Well, netizens slammed her for a reason.
‘’I am planning to talk to S about the situation. One of us needs to change our kid’s name and I’m hoping she’ll be reasonable. My kid will get here first (I’m almost at my due date) and I picked out the name first. A lot of parents change their adopted kids’ names. They could do that.’’
‘’If the kid won’t change her name, S and SH could go with a different kid. There are thousands upon thousands of orphans who need loving homes and 99.9999% of them don’t have this one particular name. They haven’t bonded with this one yet. I already have bonded with my baby and I can’t imagine her with another name.’’
People showed outrage under the comment section as one wrote, “You are an unbelievable a**hole.”
Another wrote: “You can’t see past your own petty complaints to the point where you will let them rob a 5-year-old of either her identity or her new family.”
One fumed: “Words cannot describe how disgusted I am with you right now. Get help.”
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