A woman has shared how her former best friend ‘used’ her boyfriend who paid her way through college.
The 32-year-old explained that she and her friend grew up in poverty but when her friend met her boyfriend, he did his best to support her through her education.
“My best friend and I grew up in poverty. We had not much opportunities for an education,” the woman wrote. “For young women in our area, our options were retail, drug dealing, prostitution, or hoping a rich guy would notice us. For guys it was retail, drug dealing, or finding one of the few factory jobs remaining.”
“I got lucky, managed to date a med student, he helped open doors for me and I have become a teacher in a school in a lower socioeconomic area to provide those opportunities and my husband is now a doctor,” she wrote.
But her friend was still working a minimum wage retail job at the age of 25. During that time, she met a factory worker and they started dating.
“He knew he was not the academic type, school was not for him, but he also saw potential in my friend and encouraged her to go school. She had dreams of becoming a criminal prosecutor and he encouraged her to not give up,” the woman said.
“He took out whatever loan he could find so that she could get an education. He supported her through and through, did the house work, worked extra shifts, everything so she could get an education,” the woman said.
Her friend then graduated and became a lawyer but she immediately broke up with her boyfriend who was already planning to pop the question.
“She said that as a professional, she had no interest being married to a working-class man and that she ‘deserves a real man.’ I was horrified and told her that she is betraying a man who has supported her through all this and made her what she is,” the woman went on.
“She got mad and said that it is not the woman’s job to pay the bills and that I am a hypocrite cause my husband makes a lot more than me.”
She added: “She further said that the idea of marriage as a life partnership is a patriarchal construct, that she has the right to date whoever she wants, and that as a feminist I should be supporting her.
“I told her that she is not only a major a**hole, she is giving feminists a bad name because feminism means women financially supporting their male partners as much as in the reverse.”
Her post received hundreds of comments slamming her former best friend, with one writing: “She used him. This has nothing to do with feminism. She took his love, his graciousness… and led him to believe they had a future together, while bleeding him dry.”
Another wrote: “I’m much happier being married to a (retired) laborer who did 40 years laying rail on the high plains, than I was to my rich but cheating bastard of a first husband.”
A third said: “Well madam, you have shown everybody just how nasty you really are. The guy worked hard and you got the qualifications you wanted, now you consider yourself to good for him, well maybe you will fall flat on your face and nobody will be there to pick you up.”
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