A woman has been left frustrated after her parents ‘enabled’ her 30-year-old brother’s lazy lifestyle by letting him sleep all day, play computer games, and watch videos on YouTube all night.
Writing on Reddit, the woman said that her brother dropped out of college and decided to live with their parents like a fully grown child.
Their parents are now expecting her to take care of him when they pass on even though he is capable of caring for himself and finding a job.
“I’ve tried to convince him several times that our parents won’t live forever and that he’ll need to fend for himself after they’re gone, but he either changes the subject or says he doesn’t want to discuss it,” the woman wrote.
Even though their parents and other relatives asked him to find a job, he still preferred to live off of their savings.
Because of his sedentary lifestyle, he has become morbidly obese and developed health complications.
“Despite the doctor’s warnings, he has made no changes in that arena either. I just wish there was a way to make him wake up and see reality and maybe get a little serious about life. He does not even contribute or help around the house,” the woman went on.
Their parents were also forced to scrap their retirement plans as they have to watch over their fully grown son.
“They literally drive him around everywhere and my mum combs his hair and gets him clothes like he’s a kid. I feel they’re just enabling his behavior,” she went on, adding that her mother was afraid to say no because he loses his temper.
“My father told me he’ll be my responsibility when they’re gone and I just can’t get behind that,” she added.
Reddit users were baffled by the brother’s behavior, with one person commenting: “No, and f*** no. He’s not disabled. Although his sedentary lifestyle may eventually get him there. He’s not your responsibility, and you know this. Your parents may never understand, but they don’t have to. You just have to make sure that he never comes through your door.”
Another wrote: “Your parents are absolutely enabling him and he’s never going to change as long as they are. They’re also not doing him any favours by allowing him to mooch off of them instead of being responsible for himself as an adult man, but you are absolutely not responsible for him in the future.”
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