A woman is asking for advice after she found out that the man she’s been dating is actually father of her daughter.
Taking to Reddit, the mother-of-one explained that she met the guy at an event and they immediately started dating.
“I’m a single mother to a beautiful little girl from a one night stand about 4.5 years. just finished college and had just moved and wasn’t looking for anything serious,” she wrote.
“It also happened was also just before I left on my two-month long post-college vacation,” the woman continued.
“I have been dating this man for four months. He’s met my daughter once. They get along extremely well. But I don’t let them I overlap too much.
“Prior to last week he’s been coming back to my place because I had a bad experience going back to another man’s place a year ago.
“So I went back to his place for the first time… It’s the same building as that man.”
She went on: “I didn’t really recognize it until we pulled into the parking garage and went up the elevator but I know it is.
“I recognized the hallways instantly. It also had a very recognizable building smell? (I don’t know why I remember that.
“But I feel like they use the clean solutions that spas use, it smells like eucalyptus and… apartment musk?
“The (apartment) itself is similar but it’s been 4 years and I honestly don’t remember anything but his room, and that he had a red couch and the layout which I’m assuming is similar for most of the condos.”
“It’s been a week, but I genuinely think it’s him now because, though they were busy, we met both times at two very similar events,” she continued.
“Four years ago the man had shoulder-length wavy dark hair and a thick beard when we slept together. He does have a similar skin tone, (kind Mediterranean).
“The man I am dating has short-cropped dark hair, light stubble and glasses, he also has an Italian background. They have the same name. It’s a very basic American name so I never connected it together.”
“Also, to make it worse I likely look very different too. I used to be very thin, and suffered from an eating disorder, that my pregnancy really helped me to overcome (I’ve gained 30lbs, which I really needed).
“I also had short hair that I straightened & I’m half black and admittedly look very different now with my long curly hair.
“Also, To be clear. I am stable time-wise, and money-wise. I DO NOT need this man in my life. My daughter has two amazing father figures in her uncles who visit every other day and absolutely love their roles in her life and would probably steal her if that could.”
Hundreds of Reddit users shared their thoughts on the matter, with one person writing: “People can change a lot over five years, it’s totally plausible. Crazy and unlikely? Yes. Impossible? No.”
Another wrote: “Then describe yourself then. Carry the convo on and then let him know that you got pregnant from that encounter. You’ll understand if he ghosts and doesn’t want to date anymore.”
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