Most people know the classic wedding vows in which couples tying the knot announce that they will stay by each other’s side in sickness and in health.
But one bride has revealed that she won’t adhere to one of the lines in the vow when she gets married as she doesn’t want to feel ‘obligated’ to take care of her husband.
Writing on Reddit, the woman said she “hates taking care of sick people” so she will leave out the “in sickness and in health” line from her vows and replace it with “in happiness and in health.”
“This is harsh, but I hate taking care of sick people. My siblings and I were always taking care of our parents whenever they get sick and I just hate it,” she wrote.
“I’m sick of it and I hate feeling bound or obligated to take care of somebody. My life is full of moments and events like this and I just finally want to live my life to the fullest.
“I’m going to be married soon to my lovely partner and the best guy in the world. I’m so lucky and happy to have him by my side.”
“We have been thinking a little about our marriage vows. My fiancé is going to have a traditional Christian one:
“’ I, (husband’s name), take thee, (my name), to be my wedded wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part.’
“I’m going to have an identical one but without the ‘in sickness’ part, I’m going to replace it with ‘in happiness.’”
However, her fiancé got angry when she told him about her plan and is now ‘rethinking’ whether he really wants to marry her at all.
“My fiancé says that he will not accept this and he is very mad at me, he is even rethinking the whole thing.
“I just don’t want to feel obligated to take care of anybody sick for years of my own and only life, it’s so stressful and I think he is being very unreasonable right now. It’s just a marriage vow and I have the choice to change it.”
People on Reddit were quick to share their thoughts, with one person writing: “You clearly don’t know what love is if you are asking this question and furthermore, you don’t love your fiancé and should let him find someone better who will actually take care of him not only in happiness but also through the hard times. You’re despicable.”
Another wrote: “You’re not ready to marry anyone. If you want to live that type of life then marriage isn’t for you.”
A third added: “The phrasing of vows isn’t the issue. The issue is that you only want a partner if he’s healthy and can do everything you want to do. But the truth of life is that we will all get sick and, eventually, die. That’s an unavoidable fact of life, and being someone’s life partner means dealing with that.
“You aren’t ready to be someone’s life partner. And that’s okay! If you never want to take care of someone, don’t take that leap.”
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