A woman has shared how her boyfriend told her he was ‘embarrassed’ by how much food she ate when they visited his parents for Christmas.
She took to Reddit and explained that her mother taught her to eat all of the food made whenever she was invited to someone’s home as it would be ‘rude’ to refuse.
But when she tried all of the food her boyfriend’s parents prepared, she was shocked when her boyfriend said he was ‘embarrassed.’
“My boyfriend of 7 months invited me to his family Christmas dinner. I’ve met his parents very briefly but nothing too formal.
“Anyway, we get to the food and I was pretty hungry and everything looked really amazing. I made sure to fill my plate (but not overfill, just equal amounts of everything on the table).
“I ate it all and to be honest was pretty stuffed. His mother then asked me if I wanted seconds (there was still a lot of food on the table) I took her up on the offer and put a bit more of the pasta salad.
“My boyfriend did give me a strange look but I thought nothing of it at the time.”
She said that she enjoyed a slice of cheesecake and drank coffee while exchanging stories with his parents.
“After everything, I was honestly so happy,” she said.
“I was worried about dinner and meeting his parents, but I thought that everything went well. We left his parents house in separate cars as I came directly from my parents’ house to him.”
But when they returned to her house, her boyfriend was furious.
“I asked him what was wrong and he just blew up in my face that I had no manners,” she said. “Telling me that he had never seen me eat as much as I did at his parents’ house and that it was so embarrassing.
“After further prying, he said that in his culture when you eat a lot at a person’s house it is disrespectful because you should never go to a house on an empty stomach.
“He said it makes a person look desperate. There is a language barrier between me and him and he said in a way fat… but not fat (honestly I did not understand).”
He also said that his mother talked about how ‘unmannered’ and ‘embarrassing’ she was to eat a lot.
“I told him that she told me to put seconds and he said that’s done to be a good hostess but a guest should never take up on that offer. He said it would have been fine if I had declined dessert but because I had not down that I looked even more ‘fat,’” she said.
The woman was left feeling ‘terrible’ after that but Reddit users were quick to share their thoughts, with one writing: “That’s so toxic. You didn’t even know about these ‘cultural’ rules.
“I hate saying break up with him but BREAK UP WITH HIM. You were just trying to be nice and you enjoyed the food.”
Another wrote: “Lmao in my family the person who invites for dinner and cooks would be delighted of guests overeat and take double because they like the food so much.”
A third said: “On top of that, he uses his culture as an excuse but then disrespects what she learned growing up and thought was proper etiquette.
“He really should have told her beforehand, what a weird thing to assume, that she would automatically know to eat only a little.”
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