A woman has shared how her birthday was ruined after her boyfriend made her a freshly baked cake.
The birthday girl took to Reddit and explained that her boyfriend had been encouraging her to lose weight and even though she thinks that baking a cake for her birthday was a ‘sweet gesture,’ she couldn’t help but think that he thinks she was fat.
“So, yesterday was my birthday and my boyfriend spent the morning making a cake for me. It was such a sweet gesture and it looked amazing,” she wrote.
“I took a bite and it was … really bitter,” she continued.”But I pretended it was delicious anyway. Then my boyfriend said, ‘I only put half the sugar in to make it lower-calorie’.
“And I know it’s so dumb, but it made me sad.
“For context, my boyfriend has been not-so-subtly encouraging me to lose weight recently. He said we needed to start counting calories (he doesn’t need to lose weight but wanted to support me by doing it together which is nice).
“I’m overweight and have been since well before we first met. While I would like to lose some weight, and while he isn’t exactly forcing me to do anything, it was his choice for me to start counting calories and I didn’t feel like I got much of a say.”
The woman went on: “Anyway, I know that logically I should say to myself ‘it’s so thoughtful that he made a cake for you and that he tried to make it healthier … it’s so sweet that he cares about your health’, but in my head, all I can think is ‘even on your birthday he thinks you’re fat, he can’t even let you have this one day of the year to enjoy nice things.point 445 |
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The woman said she hid in the bathroom and cried after receiving the cake. She is still wondering whether she should tell her boyfriend how she feels.
“I know that sounds so dramatic, and I really don’t want him to think I don’t appreciate that he made a cake for me because I do really appreciate the gesture. But I don’t know, just being reminded of the fact that he wants me to lose weight (which I’m pretty sensitive about anyway) on my birthday of all days just made me feel sad and bad about myself,” she continued.
“I hid in the bathroom to cry so he doesn’t know it upset me, but I’m considering telling him how it made me feel.
“I don’t want to be an a**hole when he went to the trouble of making me a cake. He clearly worked hard on it and made it look really nice. Would I be the a**hole to confront him about this and tell him that the cake upset me?”
People on Reddit were on the woman’s side, with one person writing: “Firstly, you can’t change a recipe like that and expect it to taste good. Secondly, it sounds like he is slowly chipping away at your self-esteem and this situation will only get worse if you don’t stop it.”
Another wrote: “It’s not dramatic at all — it is genuinely upsetting that he thought you didn’t deserve a proper birthday cake. What’s the point of cake?!”
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