A 29-year-old mother who opened up her relationship with a female friend said they are now raising five children under one roof as a trio.
Cheyenne Barnes from Texas had been in a relationship with her boyfriend, 34-year-old James Chorman, for more than a year when she suggested they add a female colleague to their relationship.
It was in early 2019 when the couple enjoyed a night of passion with 24-year-old Joelle Temporal, and they eventually became a ‘throuple.’
Because each of them has a child from a previous relationship, and James and Cheyenne have two together, they are now raising five children as a polyamorous trio.
They are also hoping to add a new member to their growing family as Joelle and James are trying to have a baby.
“People say we’re messing up our kids, but the kids don’t care,” Cheyenne said. “All they see is three people who love each other – and love them.
“My eldest daughter told me her friends think it’s cool she has three parents because, “She can get even more presents” – but she doesn’t look at it that way. She says she has more people to love her.”
Cheyenne went on: “Since I’m the one who watches them most of the time as James and Joelle work, I make a lot of the decisions. We have different parenting techniques, but overall, we usually agree on what we should do and we do sometimes have a vote, too.
“We decided I should be the one who mainly deals with discipline, so it remains consistent. Don’t get me wrong, I play with them too, but when they are acting up James and Joelle call me in to deal with them.
“They get to be the fun ones while I’m the bad guy! I’m pretty fair across the board with each child, regardless of whether or not they are biologically mine.
“I always make sure to have a talk with the kids so they understand what they did wrong and can think about it in the future.”
Cheyenne also explained: “I’ve been bisexual my entire life. In fact, I knew I liked women before men. I’d never been in a poly relationship before, though.
“I sat James down and said, ‘How would you feel about bringing another woman into the mix?’
“He was pretty apprehensive and started saying one woman was enough for him and that he didn’t want to complicate things.”
But six months later, James finally agreed to let another woman join their relationship.
“The children weren’t fussed. We’d always had friends crashing at ours, so it wasn’t that unusual at the start – they thought nothing of it.
“They’d shout ‘Mommy’, and we’d ask, ‘Which, Cheyenne or Joelle?’. Before we knew, it all the kids were calling us Mommy Joelle, Mommy Cheyenne and Daddy James.”
Now that they are a blended family of eight, Joelle and James have their hearts set on having a baby.
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