A future mother-in-law accused a man of treating her daughter like “cheap trash” after he decided to propose to her with a $3,000 engagement ring.
As the unnamed American man revealed in his post on Reddit, he proposed to his partner with a “nice little white gold ring with diamonds and a sapphire” only to receive a slap in the face after his future mother-in-law slammed the jewelry piece.
While the bride-to-be allegedly had no problem with the ring at first, everything changed after her mother convinced her that her partner was “using her” and treating her like “trash.”
According to the upset man, his partner has since accused him of “undervaluing her” and demanded he buys her a more expensive ring because he makes $100-150k per year.
“My partner and I have been talking about getting engaged for the last year or so. I have quite a good job so could easily afford an expensive engagement ring and if I was following the 10% rule then I should spend around 10-15k on the ring,” the man wrote.
“However, my parents, sister and nephew have all had covid this year so I was financially supporting all of them for a while, my sister has lost her job so I’m still supporting her a bit and my job has announced that they will be laying off around 150 people next year and while I feel confident that I’m not one of them, I don’t want to guarantee it either.”
As the man added, he now feels “like sh**” whereas his partner’s parents insist that he should spend at least 10% of his yearly income on the engagement ring.
After his story went viral, people were quick to suggest that he wasn’t wrong and that his partner’s parents have no right to make such demands.
“The ‘10% of your income’ is not a rule anyway. It was a marketing ploy invented by the diamond industry. You’re being very smart not to spend such a large amount of money right now considering you could be laid off, you have a new baby, and you’re financially supporting sick family members,” one person wrote.
“The 10% rule was created by the JEWELRY INDUSTRY. The two of you need to decide what is appropriate for you and your situation. If you are guilty about it or she feels slighted, then the two of you should agree to re-evaluate your circumstances at your 5th anniversary and upgrade her ring then,” another one suggested.
One user said: “If her parents can sway her opinion that much, that’s a huge red flag.And if she also believes that she’s being de-valued because she was given a 3k ring, then she clearly has issues.
I’m sorry, no matter what your income is, it’s a pandemic, and you’ve clearly been financially affected by it.Her refusing to acknowledge that is ridiculous. ”
“She is marrying you, not the jewelry, and not your paycheck. If this is to be a strong marriage, she would understand the value of what that ‘cheap’ ring really means,” someone suggested.
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