What traits would you want from your child’s boyfriend or girlfriend? Positive traits such as respectful, kind, and caring? Well to some people race is also a very important trait, but this wasn’t the case for Heather Boyer, a mother from Mississipi.
Her daughter began dating a black boyfriend and she full-heartedly approved because of the way he treated her. He had all the characteristics that she felt her daughter deserved in a boyfriend, but when her daughter changed her profile picture to an image of themselves, her mom received a racist text that revealed the sad truth that some people just could not let go of racial issues in a relationship.
Boyer received a text from someone regarding her daughter’s profile picture, the message asked her if she knew her daughter was dating a black man. Boyer was shocked, but instead of responding to the text in a negative way she chose to use this as a way to let others know of this kind of mentality and wrote a Facebook post about the experience.
“Today my daughter changed her profile picture. After maybe 5 minutes I get a text ..” I didn’t know she was dating a black boy, did you?” It took me all day to think up a response, which I didn’t send personally but thought I would share for anyone else that “may not know” Yes in fact I did know, but the color of his skin doesn’t define who he is.”
“What does define who is he is how he treats my daughter. I see my daughter dating a boy that comes to my house and shows me nothing but respect (a big deal in my book). It’s always Yes Ma’am, No Ma’am, we talk about football and baseball, he tells me bye when he leaves, and has not once shown me a lack of manners or respect.
I see my daughter dating a boy who treats her good. He takes her on dates, to ballgames, out to eat..not to a club or partying on the weekends.”
“I see my daughter dating a boy who takes her to church with him. Every Sunday.
He plays in the band, she sits with his family.How many young men these days make church a priority? None of the others have. He doesn’t hit her, cuss her, lie to her, or make her cry. Would I rather her date a white boy that did, to keep from her dating another race? Absolutely not.
So that’s my response to the question I was asked.And I know people have their own opinion, but at the end of the day, the fact that my daughter has someone that loves her and treats her like a queen makes me happy. That’s something I’ve never had in my life and I’m glad she does.
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