A 27-year-old dad has turned to the internet and asked if he was in the wrong for complaining about helping his wife with their newborn baby as he works 100 hours a week.
The first-time dad took to Reddit and explained that he is ‘on the brink of exhaustion’ from working as a surgical resident and taking care of their newborn child with his stay-at-home wife.
He said that his wife asks him to take care of their 3-month-old baby as soon as he gets back from work.
When the couple found out that they were expecting a baby, they have decided he finished his surgical residency and she quit her job as a teacher to take care of their newborn.
“I would complete my residency and then, after having somewhat more humane hours, would obviously split child caring duties equally with her so that she can also return to work,” he wrote.
But since the child was born, he said that things have been ‘rough’ for both of them. The surgeon’s workload increases and he takes on bigger operations.
“Things have obviously been rough for her, too. The pregnancy and delivery were without complication, but it goes without saying that it was still hugely taxing on her mentally and physically,” he expressed.
The father explained that his wife has been asking him to take over parenting duties when he returns home and even though he agrees, he is already starting to burn out.
“In the past few weeks she’s been asking more and more of me and a few days ago she demanded I take care of our kid immediately as I walked into the door. I hadn’t even had time to take off my shoes yet,” he shared.
The couple had an argument but he was ‘too exhausted to deal with’ it so he took a long shower to calm down.
“We later talked about what had happened and apologized to each other, but during it she essentially told me that she felt like I wasn’t doing enough to take care of the kid and that it was our responsibility equally,” he went on.
“I told her that I felt like I was already doing more than we agreed on and that I can literally not do any more than what I am currently doing.”
The husband is now in the wrong for complaining about having to help his wife with their baby even though he is already exhausted.
People on Reddit were quick to share their thoughts on the matter, with one person writing: “You both need a nap. You are both basically working 24 hours a day. It’s unsustainable. Hire a friend, family member, or a good babysitter to watch the baby while you two have a nice uninterrupted sleep.”
Another wrote: “What you need is HELP. I don’t care who said they would do what before the baby came, it’s here now and it’s not what either of you expected. It’s time to start from scratch and use your limited energy to find solutions to give you both reprieve.”
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