A mother-to-be was left furious after her boyfriend banned her mother from the delivery room even though she wanted her to be there.
The pregnant woman took to Reddit and explained that she was 38 weeks pregnant. She also said that she wanted her mother to be involved but her partner said that their special moment would be ‘ruined’ if anyone was there.
“My partner doesn’t want my mum to be involved in the birth, but I do. I’m 38 weeks pregnant and planning a home birth,” she wrote.
“This has been a point of contention for the last few months, but after our last discussion a couple of weeks ago I thought he understood why I wanted my mum there.
“Tonight we’ve had another argument about it, triggered by the fact that his whole family have Covid at the moment and so won’t be able to come around for a couple of weeks so in his eyes he has no support system whilst I have everyone I want.
“My mum and I have a very close relationship, I lived just with her until I was 19 and moved out and she moved abroad to Australia. Due to Covid, I haven’t seen my mum in years and she’s flying in tomorrow, for a month, to support me through the birth and meet her first grandbaby.”
He continued: “My main reasons for wanting her there include: she’s been through it before and I want a woman’s support who has experienced childbirth (if not my mum I would want my aunt or nan).
“I want someone there whose only job is to support me to allow my partner to enjoy the birth of our first baby. My partner and I had only been together a few months when I fell pregnant, and have only just hit a year together. Although I love him I don’t know how helpful he will actually be when I’m in pain.
“My mum is also a fully trained midwife and having her there is like a security blanket in case anything goes wrong. My partner does not have much knowledge about childbirth/biology and I’m worried about how he will react to the gore.”
However, her partner does not want anyone else to be there as he believes only the father should be in the delivery room.
“His reasons are: it should be just our ‘special moment’, in his eyes only the father should be in the room, he should be enough support for me, and he doesn’t want my mum taking his place and pushing him out of the way,” she added.
People on Reddit supported her, with one person commenting: “You both might be about to have a baby, but only one of you is going to endure childbirth. You have the right to all the care and support you need, and your partner is incredibly selfish to think otherwise.”
Another wrote: “You are the one giving birth, you decide who’s in the room. Your partner has no say in this.”
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