This man shared how her parents-in-law told him that he had ‘no right’ to name his son because he is not the biological father.
The anonymous father took to Reddit and explained that he and his husband already have a 3-year-old daughter, who they adopted and ‘means the world’ to them.
“My husband and I have been married for over five years, we have a beautiful daughter who we adopted two years ago and means the world to us, we decided this past year to start a journey via surrogacy, since I have a low sperm count, it is my husband’s sperm and an egg donor (a friend of ours),” he wrote on Reddit.
“Our surrogate is seven months pregnant and we threw a gender reveal party, unfortunately, our surrogate couldn’t be with us because she lives in Canada but via Zoom,” he continued.
“The party gathered close friends and immediate family; my in-laws were there. It turned out to be a boy and my in-laws suggested that we picked names right there.
“I’ve already chosen one but as I didn’t want to destroy their happiness, I let them suggest names to see if they come out with the name I’ve already chosen but didn’t and instead suggested names that I don’t like, they only suggested to name our baby after their fathers, it was something like Peter Jeremiah.
“I have nothing against people named like that but I don’t really like for my child.”
“I told them that we’d think about it, but they insisted on picking one,” he went on.
“After insisting so much I told them that I’ve already picked one, then MIL said ‘Well, it doesn’t matter, my son has the last say.’ I said ‘Sorry?’ then FIL replied: ‘yeah, my son has more rights to name the baby since he is the REAL dad.’
“I was furious and my husband was petrified so I (didn’t let them explain what they said) grabbed their arms and kicked them out.
“My husband got back to reality and said ‘They are my parents and this wasn’t the way’ and as you can guess I ruined the party, everyone left and after that. My husband apologized for what his parents did.”
“Today morning MIL called my husband and stated that she was so disappointed about my behavior and that I hurt her by what I did, SIL says I was far disrespectful and overreacted since I didn’t give them time to explain themselves.
“So AITA (am I the a****le), did I overreact?”
Reddit users were quick to share their thoughts, with one person commenting: “Do not let them convince you or your husband that they never intended to diminish your significance to your child.”
Another wrote: “Their behavior was outrageous and they overstayed their welcome when they invalidated you as a father.”
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