A woman who was invited to the wedding of her husband’s uncle has decided not to go to the ceremony as her baby will be only a few days old by then.
The pregnant mom explained that she doesn’t feel comfortable leaving her newborn behind with her parents while she’s at the wedding, which will be held three long hours from home.
She also does not want to take her child to the ceremony. However, her husband’s family claimed that she’s not being fair.
“So, I’m 38 weeks pregnant and my mother-in-law told us that she paid for our dinner anyway so, if we feel differently then, we could go,” she wrote on Reddit.
“I told her that it was nice of her but I don’t think this is realistic and exposed all my arguments when she insisted.
“She told me that it’s just not fair that my baby won’t have the same access to his two sides of family because I just don’t want to go.”
The expectant mom continued: “To be clear, I wouldn’t go either if the wedding was on my side. As I said, I haven’t met any of my boyfriend’s family, not because I don’t want to, but because nobody ever showed interest in seeing us.
“We’ve been to a lot of gatherings and birthday parties in my family because we’re close and they care to invite us. I don’t think it’s fair of my mother-in-law to make me feel like I’m in the wrong only because she won’t be able to show off her days-old grandson to her family right after he’s born.
“There will be more occasions, and they can always come to see us at home if they want to.”
Her partner is on her side but because of his mother’s fury, the woman has started wondering whether she was in the wrong.
People on Reddit also sided with her, with one person writing: “I guarantee that you will absolutely not want to go, no matter what. In my first marriage, my (now ex-) husband dragged me and my eight-day-old to Disneyworld. I spent almost the entire day, miserable, in the nursing mother center. To this day, I wonder why I didn’t stand up for myself, but that’s a whole other post in and of itself. Absolutely do not cave on this. You will hate yourself, and them.”
Another commented: “A baby is not a prop for grandma to wave around at a wedding. Never mind that the wedding is probably not supposed to be about someone else’s baby anyway. I’m sure the baby will get over not having met the entire extended family nine days after being born.”
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