A young mother has asked the internet for advice after her in-laws demanded she changes her baby girl’s name.
As the anonymous new mom in question revealed in her Reddit post, she and her husband decided to wait with introducing their baby to their parents until she was feeling better after she gave birth.
When it was finally time to make introductions, the couple invited their parents over and told them they have named their daughter Ryan after the man’s late brother.
While meant as a tribute, the name wasn’t well-accepted by the mother’s in-laws who allegedly freaked out and called the woman incompetent while demanding she changes her daughter’s name.
“My baby’s name is Ryan. My husband made the decision on the name and I made the decision on the middle name. He wanted to name her Ryan for his late brother,” the new mom said.
“I love the name and it fit her perfectly. Yesterday when the family came over and saw Ryan, my mother-in-law asked for the name as soon as they sat down and I told them and they freaked out.
“My MIL was asking what the hell was wrong with me and why would I give the baby a boy name. My husband told them why but they freaked out even more saying that the name they chose for him was for a boy and that even then it’s sacred and I shouldn’t even have thought about using that name.”
As the woman added, her parents-in-law only blamed her even though their own son chose the name. She also claimed her husband’s father called her “an incompetent woman” before leaving their home.
According to the mother, it was up to her own parents to comfort her after her in-laws confronted her with a barrage of insults and allegations.
On the following day, the woman’s husband said he felt terrible about the disagreement and asked her if they could change Ryan’s name. He also said his parents told him they want nothing to do with the little girl should her name stay the same.
“I didn’t say another word and left up to the bathroom and have been crying in there ever since. I feel horrible, I feel like I just put my husband through hell but I don’t want to change the name,” the mom concluded as she asked Reddit for advice.
Soon enough, plenty of people commented on her post with divided opinions. While some suggested the parents overreacted, others blamed the woman and her husband for being insensitive and not thinking their decision through.
“I don’t think you considered how traumatic it could be for them to have another person in the family with the same name as the child they lost. You never even spoke to them beforehand to prepare them,” someone wrote.
“He didn’t defend his wife. Tell his parents it was HIS IDEA. Or even give them a heads up, since it was HIS brother and HIS parents HE should have told them BEFORE the birth just to make sure this wouldn’t happen. Your husband needs to step up,” another said.
The third suggested: “Now, your husband has caved, after he stood by and let his parents berate you. You really should have discussed this with them as it affects them in a way that any other neutral name would not.”
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