A married man from the States has asked the internet for advice after his wife demanded he let her go on a one-month vacation without him or their child.
The 32-year-old father in question revealed he and his wife, 30, share a 16-month-old daughter. He also said his partner had recently been nagging him about wanting her old life back because she’s “tired of feeling like a mom” all the time.
Saying she “earned” her time to be alone by going through pregnancy, the young mom allegedly insisted she goes on a one-month trip to Europe alone without her husband or their child.
Shocked by his wife’s demands, the husband lashed out at the woman and accused her of wanting to abandon her family to get her single life back. He also said he believes they both have a responsibility to their family now that they are parents.
And while the man would gladly take over all parenting duties for up to a week, he is adamant about not letting his wife take such a long solo trip abroad.
“I do not think it is appropriate for a married person (and now a parent) to leave the household to be away from your family for more than that time. I thought my wife agreed with me because she held the same views as well,” he wrote in his post.
“I would happily step up and take on her share of childcare if she wanted to do a weekend trip or a spa day and would fully support that.point 225 |
Apparently, that’s not enough for her.point 39 | I told her if she wants to really do something about her savings, it would be great if WE could do something maybe as a couple or a family TOGETHER because I also deserve a break as much as she does.point 198 | 1
“I told her how it’s selfish she is choosing to spend her savings entirely on herself when I nearly exhausted all MY personal savings on a large family expense.”
The disagreement led to a major fight with the man failing to fathom why his wife is trying to leave them for such a long time. He also told the woman he couldn’t see himself in a relationship with someone who refused to compromise with him on this matter.
“She started crying and told me she wants to feel like herself again, and I told her she definitely can do something this weekend as well but her propositions are highly unrealistic.point 267 |
It seems that she does not want to accept things as they are.point 49 | I suggested maybe she could get therapy and got told ‘I won’t accept the unacceptable’ and how I was condescending her into therapy,” the man concluded.point 188 | 1
After asking for advice, the man got plenty of it.
“She needs to find a compromise that doesn’t involve pinning all the duties on you for a whole month. I’d be absolutely livid and absolutely questioning my marriage if my husband told me he was going on a month long vacation and leaving me to deal with everything,” one reader commented.
“Tough s**t. She’s a mother now. She has responsibilities. It’s not going to be the same as it was,” another agreed.
A third wrote: “I’m a mom of three and I understand wanting to run away from motherhood for a minute but this is extremely excessive. Having had three babies I just can’t imagine being away from any of them for a month.”
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