A heartbroken father has taken to the internet to ask for advice after his girlfriend of five years told him that she does not want his 11-year-old daughter at their wedding.
Taking to Reddit, the upset dad explained that his fiancée does not want his daughter from a previous relationship to attend their wedding.
“I have a daughter (P) from a previous relationship. I divorced my ex-wife on good terms and we share 50/50 custody of P. She is now 11. After I divorced my ex-wife I met my now [fiancée] (S).”
The man and his fiancée dated for five years and he was happy that she and his daughter were getting along well.
When he popped the question, S said yes and they immediately started planning their wedding together.
“She looked at venues and started asking her friends to be her bridesmaids. She then told me she wanted her niece to be a flower girl. Which I had no problem with, but I said I also wanted P to be a flower girl. S looked at [me] funny and then said that she didn’t think that P would ‘fit the part,’” she went on.
The father was left furious upon hearing his fiancee’s remarks.
“I got angry and told S that my daughter would be at our wedding,” he said.
“S started to become upset and said that the girls in the wedding were up to her and P wouldn’t be one of them. I told S that if P wasn’t in the wedding then there might not be a wedding. I stormed out and took P to get ice cream.”
People on Reddit were shocked by the fiancee’s decision, with many describing her as a ‘red flag.’
One Reddit user said: “This is a big red flag. If she doesn’t want to include her step daughter in her wedding then don’t expect she will include your daughter in her life…”
Another commented: “S just showed you her true feelings for P. You want the people who mean the most in your wedding. The fact that your fiancée, who I’m guessing is younger than you and this will be her first marriage, doesn’t think your daughter fits that description is extremely telling to me.”
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Your daughter should always come before anyone. Ditch the bitch she does not deserve you or your daughter. There should be no wedding even if she changes her mind. She has already shown her true colors.
Well said.
Right well said move on
Totally agree 🤗
I agree! Daughter should come first. Showing her true colors.
Totally agree she should be a memory to you now. My daughter is remarrying and he loves my grands like his own. That’s how it should be for your daughter also. I know your heart may hurt but you’ll be glad in the end.
Just what I was going to say …….I think you’re probably marrying the wrong woman !
She is not the one . Your daughter should be included.
She’s a loser. Ditch her quick and count your blessings. You and your daughter deserve so much better
Totally agree with ditch the bitch don’t let her rule you .
I agree with what you said! Even if she begs you to come back apologizing over & over, RUN. Her true colors came out in her first comment.
DIDO !!!!!!!
Tell your fiance to hit bricks. Your daughter comes before her and her niece
Exactly, your daughter should definitely be included before her niece. Be glad you saw her true personality before you went through with the marriage. I’m somewhat confused as to “why” you needed or wanted anyone else’s opinion in this situation. Your daughter is important and will always be in your life. You have every right to be angry and you should be. You know what to do, so just do it. No one said it will be easy, but you can for your daughter’s sake. Moving on doesn’t mean you don’t forgive your fiancé, it means you value your daughter and yourself as well. This is no small matter, be grateful it happened BEFORE you got married. The right woman will want your daughter in her life.
I agree with Mandy, your daughter will always be there for you. Women go and come and she would have to go.
Break up with her, you can always find the one who will love you & your child . Don’t give up, pray 🙏🏼 in faith to the Lord even if it takes awhile b/c God sees everything & He doesn’t abandon his faithful children
If she doesn’t except your daughter that is telling a lot. She is not the one for you.She has got to go. She will not be nice to your daughter at all. I would not trust the B
I agree with you he should just say goodbye to her, she knew he had a child and that it will mean the child will be part of their lives too. Woman like her does not deserved good man that care for their child.
Dump her
Never marry a person who does not totally accept and love your children. Not including your daughter is a HUGE red flag! I am sorry to say that it will ruin your daughters life.
No way don’t even consider putting your child into that situation..
She’s not the right fit for you or your daughter. If she is not willing to make her a part of your big day she will never be fully committed to including her in your married family.
Red flag she doesn’t want your daughter in the wedding. I bet there’s been other issues you have overlooked. Better to find out now before you marry. Your daughter should be a priority to both of you. She will be a part of your life. I wouldn’t continue the relationship with her.
OMG …..please do not marry this woman ……she’s extremely inconsiderate and outright disrespectful to your daughter and YOU !
Time to get rid of her if she don’t want your daughter in the wedding then she don’t want her around at all,your daughter should be in the wedding or no wedding
She realized she was coming into a blended family when she got involved with a man who had a child from a previous relationship. She’s living in an unrealistic ‘Alice in Wonderful’ syndrome. #DumpHerQuick
Run run run not good relationship at all run
Your daughter is part of you. If the new Gord friend does not want ant your daughter there then you should not be there either. Drop her now cause there will be problems later.
Do not marry this woman. She is finally showing her true colors concerning your daughter. This is her initial attempt to push your daughter out of your life. Her lack of concern for your daughters’ feelings in addition to yours prove this. RUN!!
Run fast and don’t look back!
Yay run
Dump her fast! 👋
Does She Have Kids of Her Own Why Get Her Niece Involved and Not His Daughter Duump Her Fast She Dont love anyone but Herself? They could have been Playing him as a Fool That’s Why I Think Luther Vandross’s Song “I Dont Want to Be a Fool: Fits the Situation
Best leave her and continued your life your precious daughter. You will find good woman when right time comes. She will ruined your life and peace.
Best leave her and continued your life your precious daughter. You will find good woman when right time comes. She will ruined your life and peace.
Best leave her and continued your life your precious daughter. You will find good woman when right time comes. She will ruined your life and peace.
You and your daughter come as a package deal 100%, if your fiance doesnt except that then she doesnt except you!!
She has shown that she doesn’t want your daughter in her life. If it was me I’d walk away.
Dump her fast!!
Remember Sir, that your daughter will always be your #1 priority and it’s very apparent your fiancé doesn’t accept this and I’m sure she will definitely will make your precious child uncomfortable and unwelcome in all your future as husband and wife.
Break all commitments with her and most importantly Drop the fiancé now, and never look back at what you had and what she pretended to be. . If she truly loved you it’s unconditioned love and what she is sharing with you is her heartfelt emotion of not caring about your daughters as a member of your family.
Kids come first always.
Well written, this is happening very often, if Ladies out there can’t understand the closeness of a man and his child then they should not hook up with the man. It is for this bride her jealousy of love for his daughter.
Definite red flag! I think her “true colors” are showing!
I would def not marry this woman she knew when she meet you that you had a daughter from a previous marriage and that she will be part of your life’s and that she will be the stepmom of her but if this is how she is acting now and not wanting your daughter there for your big day then how is going to treat your daughter once your married I would really rethink this as far as I’m concern kids come first and if she can’t except that then she is the wrong woman for you I would RUN WAY and quick
As a woman I totally agree with you I had the same problem when my ex left me for a younger model, as he was so besotted with the new girl friend he never thought how she will feel about having his son living with them. I did let my son go to his father during a school holiday which in France was a month that was enough to show her true colour, but the idiot of a father decided he won’t see his son anymore. Now this son is well settled have a good job and a family of his own, we are very close.
I would def not marry this woman she knew that you had a daughter from a previous marriage and that she would be the stepmom to her but now she is showing her true colour’s how dare she tell you that your daughter can’t be part of your big day I would really rethink of marrying this woman if she acts like this now how is she going to treat your daughter once your married please RUN
What a cheek . Imagine she was her daughter and YOU ACT THE SAME WAY , Say goodbye to her. If you marry her you are starting on the wrong foot and there will be more problems in the near future. Dump her NOW.
If she can’t love ❤️ your daughter she can’t love ❤️ you this about family don’t never your family out this on you think before you marry her
Run. She is not the one for you. She should be accepting and proud to have your daughter part of your wedding and life
This is a real red flag! She is the wrong woman! She is obviously jealous of your relationship with your daughter. Maybe pre marital counseling could help, but this is a bad situation.
Omg . If this lady truly loved you she should love your daughter too.!!She should accept her and have her in tge wedding party you can have 2 flower girls or she could carry the rings and be the ring bearer. This does not look good if she does not want your daughter in the wedding how is she going to be once you are married.. Bad vibes not good
Do not marry this person or your daughter will have a miserable life Leaveher NOW
say no wedding if my daughter can’t be a part of the wedding, idios
she is your number 1 priority and always will be! there are many fish in the sea
tell her to go away she should accept your daughter at your wedding get rid of her .
This is also your marriage and you should have some say in who attends,madam has he own agenda and your daughter will never be part of it if that is how she is treating you and her now,reconsider what you are doing your child needs love and care to grow to be a well rounded adult and reading this I fear she will not get that from your fiancé if you were my son I would be very angry and saying take your daughter hand hold on tightly and head for the hills I know it will be hard but you will find someone in the future who loves every part of you and that includes your daughter she is a big part of you and needs to be loved and cherish.
Dump her. She’s given you insight to what your relationship would look like. Remember women will come and go but your child is forever.
Your daughter only has one dad. Imagine how heartbroken she would be not to be included in your big day. If she even gets a hint this is how your fiance feels, it will break her. I would probably walk away now
i certaintley would not marry someone like that she would give any husbandloads of selfish wants and desiresshe will never make a good wife get out now before its to late i havebeen throught this so i knowonly pain and mysery lie ahead i will pray for you ther is some out there for you that will love youre daughter youre daughter comes first please say if my daughters can come to our wedding then the wedding is off and you will find a more loving and compassionate wife amen
The fact she even thought it appropriate to have this conversation in front of your daughter shows her insensitivity. How must your daughter be feeling!
And wait till she has her own child, your daughter will be out in the cold.
Sir, this is not the right person to have around your daughter. Do you remember the fairytale Cinderella? This is what will happen to your daughter and God forbid something happens to you and she is left in her care. Take your daughter and run as fast as you can from this person.
Wow, She is so Selfish.If She doesn’t want your child in the wedding but she wants her niece who is about the same age to be apart of it⁉️This person is not in love with you,she’s probably in love with what you have ‼️Get her away from you and your child NOW ‼️‼️‼️
First and foremost, I am sure your daughter is your FIRST PRIORITY and I have to agree with many of the other posters that this woman is DEFINITELY NOT the right woman for YOU and definitely, absolutely, positively not the right STEPMOM for your daughter. I married my second husband when my son was 5 years old and he loved my son as his own until the day they both passed😢
Praying that you make the right decision❤️
My first instinct is to agree with everyone. Then I thought about the fact that you didn’t ask your fiance why she would ever say that. Did your daughter say or do anything that might have annoyed or hurt her feelings or is she just being a witch like everyone thinks. I have a feeling it’s jealousy of the good relationship you have with your daughter. At the very least you need to settle this before you walk down the aisle. I know you must have feelings for the woman or you wouldn’t of asked her to marry you. Everyone is saying dump her and that is not so easy. Take it slow and postpone if you have to. Good Luck to you !
Sweetie dump her now. She will miss treat your daughter. She is not the one for you.
You really need to call off wedding. Bad enough she doesn’t want your daughter but she is having her niece. My daughter at that age was a junior bridesmaid.. This is an example of how she will treat her. You will be heartbroken but you will get over it.
I would be very worried unless your ex has primed her not to be good with the new lady. You need to get your fiance to explain clearly why. If she refuses then put off the wedding for a time and talk to them both separately and maybe all go out and have fun together. If that does not help then this may be a red flag.
What happens when your daughter wants to get married. Can you imagine the argument about who pays. Ditch her now.
RUN as fast as you can!