A man explained why he refused to call his stepdaughter as his daughter and people can understand his reason. An anonymous dad shared on Reddit that he loves his stepdaughter but ‘there is a degree of separation.’
The man explained he and his wife met 6 years ago and decided to tie the knot after two years. He adores his wife’s daughter who is now 12-year-old and they share a great bond. Recently his wife asked him to refer his stepdaughter as his daughter but the man refused as he said that he doesn’t see her as his own daughter. This may sound a bit awkward to you but he has a reason behind this thinking.
The man wrote on Reddit: ”I met my wife 6 years ago, we got married after 2 years of knowing one another. She had a 6-year-old daughter when I met her and she’s now a thriving and lovely 12-year-old.”
”I love her very much and I consider her to be family, but first and foremost my stepdaughters father is heavily involved in her life and he is a great dad. She already has a father, and for years both her dads side and my wife’s side of the family have felt the need to ‘drum it into me’ that I will never ever be a father, just moms husband.”
”Over time I guess their mental POV has shifted because now my wife and her family wish for me to start referring to my stepdaughter as my daughter.However she is not expected to refer to me as dad. I don’t really have an issue with this but I am uncomfortable because I don’t view her as my daughter, I actually view her as a younger family never that i take care of.
I love her but she’s my stepdaughter, there is a degree of separation, and that has been influenced by my wife and her family as well as my stepdaughters paternal family.”
”Anyhow my wife recently asked me why I don’t refer to her as my daughter when I talk about her to other people, I simply said because she’s not my daughter, (we’ve had many discussions in the past about why I’m uncomfortable and she tells me organic relationships grow and I need to get over it, but I still feel the way I feel) and she blew up at me saying I’m being difficult and that if I never view our daughter as my daughter I’m a terrible person.
”I love her- to clarify, I just don’t see her as my child- am I the a**hole?”
His story sparked a debate on Reddit and many users defended him as one wrote, “Your wife is a strange person man. She spent years making sure you never felt completely comfortable with your relationship – and now she’s mad you refer to her as your stepdaughter (which she is)?”
Another added: “Your family made sure that that boundary was never ventured into. Now that they see you are a good husband, they want to suddenly switch it up?”
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