Throughout her adult life, Dalreece has always been on the bigger side while her husband Jarreth has always been slim.
They had never heard of the term ‘inter weight’ before but their huge weight difference has earned them some ridicule while out in public.
Jarreth said: “A lot of the times I do hear people commenting on the sly or saying something about Dalreece when we are in public. At times it does hurt. I feel a bit sad and I try to just ignore it, so I internalize it and then I would want us to leave because it becomes upsetting.”
Watch to find out more of their story below.
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Dalreece added: “When we go out nobody really comments about the fact that we are different sizes. It’s more like stares and looks and you can see people whispering. And kids stare a lot.
“I think that in society, there’s just like, a norm and stereotype that people of the same weight are supposed to be in a relationship.”
It’s not enough that they face some insulting remarks but Jarreth has even been accused of harboring a fat fetish or that he was a feeder.
He said: “Assumptions people might have is that I have a fat fetish or that I am a chubby chaser.”
Dalreece added: “Being a feeder is also a thing with big size couples. Where the guy feeds the woman, which is not the case at all.”
The couple, who both live just outside Cape Town, South Africa, are standing up to the prejudice of being labeled simply because of how they looked. They didn’t even know the terms ‘inter-weight’ and ‘mixed-weight’ relationships because they were simply in love with each other.
Dalreece said: “Honestly, I never really heard about ‘inter weight’ or ‘mixed weight’ couples before this point. We didn’t really know what it was a thing.
“I guess every day; we are challenging the stereotypes by being together. And being happy actually, because I think that goes a long way. And I think there’s a lot of stigma with being overweight. Obviously, there are other things that you could be worse at or have other problems. But I do feel like, we are a long way to removing all the stigma that comes with being overweight.”
The couple got matched on Tinder three years ago and they started writing each other regularly until they both decided to finally meet up. Dalreece had only posted pics of her face on the dating app because she was conscious of her size. Despite being worried that Jarreth might not want to date her anymore, she still sent him a full-body photo of herself.
Dalreece said: “I was like: ‘if you want to be friends, it’s fine, just tell me now I don’t want us to meet and then… [Jarreth not like her].
“In the past, I did experience with guys not really wanting to talk to me because of my weight and things like that. I have had experiences where I would meet guys online and they wouldn’t really want to meet afterward.”
But she needn’t have worried because her size didn’t bother Jarreth at all. They got married a little over a year ago and have never been happier.
Jarreth said: “I just see Dalreece as a person. Not a fat person. Not a chubby person, she’s my wife and she’s the person that I love. The person that I that I’m spending my life with. That’s what she is to me.”
As for Dalreece, she says that having a loving and supportive husband has helped her embrace her figure as well as love herself more, too.
She said: “I was always self-conscious and didn’t really want to post full body pics and things like that. But after we met, I think I just I loosened up a lot and became a lot less self-conscious and a lot more forthcoming and honest with myself and with my following.”
Jarreth concludes: “To people out there who think that men can’t love a larger woman. It’s just superficial. You, you get to know the person and you get to see what’s inside.
“Society’s thinking is just skewed. Unfortunately, that is just the way it is. But it’s possible you can get to know. It’s not about the aesthetics, it’s about what’s inside that matters.”
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