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Teenager Wrote Open Letter To Her Abusive Ex-Boyfriend To Inspire Other Victims Of Domestic Abuse


Brittaney Lynn Shane was involved with somebody who brought up every single little thing he deemed “unfit” for his girlfriend.

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She permitted him to direct her hairdo, her cosmetics, and even her weight.

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She was verbally abused about pretty much everything. He would use words like  “ridiculous,” “tacky,” and “ugly” to describe her physical appearance. Despite the harsh words, Brittaney couldn’t find the courage to break off the relationship.

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Sadly, when Brittaney was at her lowest, she harbored a lot of hatred for herself. So when her boyfriend left her for a  “prettier” girl, in her mind she thought the relationship ended because it was HER FAULT because she wasn’t living up to his insane expectations.

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She could have turned down a risky way of self harm and unhealthy habits, as many young women do in similar circumstances. Instead, something rather incredible began to happen… she started realizing how lovely she was, both inside and out.

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Brittaney took to Facebook to share her newfound confidence with the world. Presently, the young person’s message is turning into a viral sensation, with a huge number of likes and comments via social media.

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Here is  the incredible Facebook post that has got everybody talking:

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You always told me I didn’t look good with long hair and that you preferred girls with short hair.

So I kept my hair cut above my shoulders at all times. You laughed at me and told me I looked ridiculous when I dyed my hair red when we were together. So a week later I dyed it back blonde.

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You would always point out if I was wearing to much makeup. (Winged eyeliner and mascara most of the time) So I just stopped wearing it.  You told me tattoos and piercings were tacky and ugly. And would try to take out my belly button ring every time you saw it. So I took out my piercings and didn’t get any more tattoos.

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You pointed out my stretch marks every chance you got. So I did my best to keep them hidden. You pointed out every time I looked like I had gained weight. So I started eating less every day.

You pointed out every single flaw I had. So I lost every bit of confidence I had.

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For almost two years you had me convinced that you were out of my league and that I just wasn’t good enough the way I was.point 233 |

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I did everything I could to be what you wanted.point 38 | I did everything you told me to do.point 66 | It still wasn’t good enough.point 96 | You left me for a younger prettier girl.point 129 | Someone you could mold and shape into what you wanted.point 174 | Like you tried to do with me.point 197 | And up until a few months ago I blamed myself for everything that happened.point 259 |

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You blamed me too.point 15 | But finally I started to see the truth.point 47 | You weren’t out of my league.point 77 | I was out of yours.point 92 | I wasn’t the one who wasn’t good enough for you.point 143 | You were the one who wasn’t good enough for me.point 187 | You couldn’t accept me for who I was.point 223 |

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When I took you the way you were.point 26 | Your many many many flaws and everything else that was there.point 77 | point 77 | 1

The only time I ever asked you to change was when I asked you to show me you actually cared about me.

Which you never did.

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So now here I am a few months later. My hair is past my shoulders. My hair is bright red. I’ve got a new tattoo. New piercings. Started wearing makeup again. I eat whatever I want whenever I want and weigh 135 pounds. I still have my stretch marks.

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And I’ve finally gotten my confidence back.

I finally see myself looking back at me when I look in the mirror. Not the girl you had created. You have your life. Your new love. Your side of our story. But you no longer have me. Not in any way, shape, or form.

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It’s so hard for me to come out about this and admit that I became so vulnerable because of one guy. Something I always said would never happen. It’s humiliating to even think about how low I got. But what gives me the guts to come out about this is the fact that I overcame it and I’m finally back to who I really am.

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Share this INCREDIBLY brave post with your friends and family… you never know who needs to hear it!