A bored wife has sought marriage advice on the internet as she admitted she is tired of her relationship with her “dull” and “grumpy” husband.
The woman in question shared a lengthy open letter on Mumsnet in which she revealed she’s “fed up” with her boring husband who allegedly only finds comfort in work and reading rather than spending time with her and their children.
She also admitted that she married the man because he was “dependable” and that was something she was looking for after having a history of dating “bad boys” who weren’t marriage material.
Years into their marriage, however, the disgruntled wife has grown tired of putting in all the effort to protect their marriage while allegedly receiving no emotional support from her husband in return.
“I’m so fed up of my husband and my marriage. No, I don’t want to divorce him. He’s not a nasty person, he’s not done anything awful me. He’s not abusive. He hasn’t cheated, nor do I worry he will,” she wrote in her candid post.
“I wouldn’t say he’s a good father but I probably wouldn’t say he’s a BAD father either, I suppose. He’s a bare-minimum kind of father.”
She continued: “I’m finding life with him painfully boring. He’s such a grump 100% of the time. Always scowling. Never fun. Never jokes with us. Never plays with the kids. Never seems to really enjoy them.
“He was very into football and Lego as a kid, and we have two boys and they would love to play football with him in garden but he’s always got an excuse. Never wants to build Lego with them. He’d rather just sit about reading the news, or work. He loves his work.”
The woman further revealed that she and her husband are complete opposites and that she’s no longer sure that’s a good thing. She also insisted she is the one to put in all the effort to make sure their kids have fun because he is “always scowling” and never interested in his family.
After asking the internet for advice, the mom was flooded with mixed responses. While some people accused her of using her husband because he was a “safe bet,” others suggested she should run for the hills should he refuse to change his ways and put in more effort.
“You married him because he made life comfortable for you. Now you don’t want to be with him because those traits as a father and life partner make him boring,” someone wrote.
“You don’t sound compatible. He hasn’t changed during this relationship, he’s doing the same thing that you once saw in a positive light. You can’t make him change into a person he’s not and never has been,” another said.
A third argued: “I don’t think it’s fair to say he adds nothing to your life. He brings stability, loyalty, security. He may be boring but having a parent who keeps you safe is something not all kids have.”
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