A woman has shared her dilemma online after her mother-in-law decided to ‘gift’ her unborn baby her middle name as part of a family tradition but she did not want it.
Taking to Reddit, the pregnant mother explained that she and her husband have already decided to name their daughter ‘Daisy May.’
She also said that the name May has a personal significance to her and even though they kept it a secret, her husband John accidentally told his mother their baby’s first name ‘Daisy.’
“Well, at this tea party, Molly (my mother-in-law) gave me a large wrapped gift box along with a speech about how it’s a tradition in John’s family that if the eldest son has daughters, the grandmother of those daughters gifts them their middle names.
“Excuse me, what? I’m surrounded by like 50 women and they’re all nodding. I don’t have the spoons for this, so I just open the box. There are a bunch of blankets and stuff with ‘Daisy Flora’ embroidered on them.”
The mom-to-be was left frustrated as her baby’s name was no longer a secret. “I go through the motions to get to the party’s end. Molly says that I seem upset. I tell her that John didn’t tell me of the tradition and that I want to discuss it with him before saying anything further. Molly was unenthused by my response.”
The mother asked internet users if she should stick to her husband’s family tradition, adding that her mother-in-law was beyond upset after she told her that she didn’t like the name Flora.
One Reddit user commented: “My family also has a tradition, which is that the parents, and only the parents, name the child. Sorry.”
Another wrote: “It’s your child, you shouldn’t feel pressured to stick to a family tradition, especially when your partner wasn’t even aware of it.
“To already have the name embroidered on things was also weird and put you in an awkward position. Congratulations on your pregnancy, don’t let anyone tell you what you’re allowed to name your child.”
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What’s wrong with Daisy May Flora?
Nothing but is not her name Daisy May is !!! Not Flora . Her baby not grannys !!! she should mind her on business and stop interfering with sons family !!!
It’s to old of a name for a child today. Besides it’s our baby our decision period
I think it’s your child not her. You name the baby what you want
It’s your child you name her what you want. Too bad if the mother-in- law doesn’t like it.
EXACTLY !
Youve the right to name your child.Its your special time with your spouce to be happy let grammy sit down she dont have no say triditons or not name your child and be happy let noone discourage you and dont feel guilty.
I think it was unfair and very controlling for them to go ahead and have the name embroidered. It is wrong.
It’s your child, also it should have been handled different. She is trying to control you.
It’s your baby don’t bow to her it’s probably not even a tradition stick to your guns she’s yours I didn’t even let my husband name our kids be
I advise young mothers not to tell anyone the baby’s name. Including me.
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Unbelievable…name your own child
I think the mother in law was way out of line and the parents have the right to name the baby!congrats to the mom ,stick to your decision.
Having the items personalized is serious manipulation! If you intend to raise you child as you wish, then your husband needs to have a serious talk with his mother. If SHE chooses to get crazy about it then you need to limit contact! She raised her family as she wished and it is your honor to raise yours! My name would have been Eula Mae if my Granny had were way , and THANKFULLY my daddy said NO! I’ve always liked Diana!!
Don’t let that stop your joy of naming your child! It’s you and your husband’s decision only. Don’t let it make you feel some type of way either! You name your child what you want! Period. God bless and Congratulations
Compromise and use all 3 names and everyone will be happy! Life is too short to sweat the small stuff and that is a small thing!